There are two kinds of people in this world. There are many types but mostly when related to different filters, its earlier to calculate with any number divisible by 2.
For lying we will start with two and further drill into the subcategories.
One, who lie and get caught. Two, who lie and get caught and then lie some more. The second category is those of the compulsive liars. The first one is just about everyone else. Then there is a group which does not come into any of the above categories, they form intellectuals. They too lie, but they never get caught lying.
No one in this world as we live in today, can survive on truth alone. Lies can be small, very harmless ones. You are late for an appointment, the person you are supposed to meet is calling repeatedly, and you finally pick the phone once, only to yell “Am stuck in traffic, tu dilli mein challan karwaega, 5 minute mein pahuch raha hun”.
Lets assume, that you for a day you will speak only the truth. We all have seen Jim Carrey’s original and Govinda’s remake. We may not be as hilarious as both of them, mostly because they were mouthing lines given to them by other about previously thought situations. You on the other hand would be in the direct line of fire. Here could be a few plausible conversations,
Your Boss: Ramess, I think the following changes would make the presentation better.
You: Sir, aap to rehne do. saara data bhi picchle saal ka hai, but tujhe kya farak padega. Kaam ka kaam to hota nahin, yeh faltu k changes kara lo bus. Font size change karke 10 kar dun, to sahi rahega?
For the english speaking readers, let me translate what Ramess said - “ Let it be, sir. You have no idea what actual work is. I think, all you learnt in powerpoint was playing with themes and colors. Suits you. Even the data that we are showing is from last year, but why would it concern you, lets change the font size to 10, then probably the figures would add up.”
Another scenario could be closer to home,
Wife: You don’t love me like you used to, you don’t even say I love you to me anymore.
You: Kyun kahun? kya reh kya gaya hai life mein tere kharche uthane k alawa, kamar tuut gayi hai meri, uspe se I love you bhi chahiye? mere gurde nikaal k bech de. le I love you meri maa, keh dia. Ab khush? Chai milegi ab?
Again let me translate for the english speaking reader, “ Yes I don’t, every cell in my body revolts at the thought of being close to you, living with you. Your constant nagging kills me, and your expenditures have left me broke. Mortgage my kidneys maybe then I may be able to afford you. And here’s your I love you, satisfied? Now can I get a cup of tea?”
Mostly probably in the first case, Ramess would die a horrible death. In the second case, death would be the easy way out. Just hope you mother in law does not start living with you to sort you out. But then to avoid these situations in life, you should lie. You have to lie. There is no other way to survive this world. These are the little harmless situations where in you have no other way out. White lies is what we call them. Things you don’t say, so that people around you are happy and not turning in hunter and killers, hungry for your flesh and blood.
We are all taught the same lessons in school mostly. Even in the social circles we aren’t taught specifically to lie and cheat. I don’t deny that there are many places, which teach you exactly that, it could be a management school, and engineering college hostel, even for that matter, a government office. But growing up, there comes out a tendency in some of us, to lie in the face of everything. That the truth just isn’t good enough. It not worth it. Lie and keep lying whatever maybe the reason. This is the habit of lying. Wherever i look, i see habitual liars. And i look in the mirror too often. I am not spared from it as well.
The worst form of habitual lying is lying to ones inner-self. What hurts life most is when people start lying to themselves. For no specific reason. Once you aren’t truthful to yourself, you can’t be truthful to anyone. Sooner or later anything you say would be a lie. You won’t be able to utter a single word which would mean what you feel like. On the face we lie that we are happy, satisfied, inside we are lying to ourselves about everything supposedly good in us. We have to break this streak, else we end up keep walking a path which does not lead to peace in life. And the worst part is we keep lying to everyone, inside and outside that this is the best path for us. Truth no matter how hard, is more relieving than the sweetest lies. We keep masking our inner feelings, we lie to people who are close to us, often because we don’t want to hurt them, but eventually in the long run, you are hurting them more than anyone else. We keep them in a cocoon of doubt, a dark corner, till the time its too much to bear, for anyone, and we simply no longer feel alive from inside.
Of course, there are course of actions which can’t be seen only through the eyes of morality and truthfulness. But its our choice in the end to wake up and smell the coffee.
I don't advise to start being truthful hence forth, its a dangerous plan, for anyone, more so for me. But do be truthful to what you are and what you feel inside, that would be a good place to begin.
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